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Climbing our own “ladders” of possibility… living with inspiration, determination and possibility

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Ladders of possibilities  Carleton Road

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Kathy’s 96 year old Aunt Okie (link to Okie’s blog: 96 years old and still writing ) recently wrote up a recollection about an experience from when she was in her 80’s… a simple little experience that I think provides inspiration to those of us seeking to live with continuing, expanding possibilities… enriched goals, inspirations and aspirations…. not living with limitations of what we perhaps might not be able to do…rather with the open “possibilities” of what we can do… right now, this minute, this month, this year… creating our own “ladders” of possibility…whether simply adding a little “E” to a road sign or undertaking major shifts in life…

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As you read, perhaps keep in mind….
….possibilities….

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Ladders of Possibilities Carleton Road Meredith NH written by Okie Howe

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Can you believe that? What a sense of purpose, independence, creativity and determination!  And, that pleasant, older gentleman friend? He held the ladder while Okie, in her 80’s,  climbed…

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Nurturing “self kindness” and “self compassion”

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Many of us are generously nurturing and encouraging others,
but perhaps we’re not as aware of how important it can be to nurture ourselves, too?
Stepping back and reflecting…
realizing the many benefits
of offering increasing kindness and compassion to ourselves…
Perhaps, the kinder and more compassionate we are with ourselves,
the more nurturing, accepting and encouraging we are with ourselves….
the more content and happier we’ll be…
and the more that will spread to and benefit others, too.

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This post is part of “Nurturing Thursdays” from Becca Givens Blog. Please stop by Becca’s blog for her “Nurturing Thursday” post and links to other participants’ nurturing posts

Related Pocket Perspectives images and posts:
5 Good strategies for developing more self compassion  “A Wide Angle Lens: 5 simple steps for developing greater acceptance…

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Ed Robinson's Blog

Whenever I encounter someone who is failing or struggling inevitably they have convinced themselves that this is their lot in life.  They spend a considerable amount of time thinking about worst case scenarios and everything that is going wrong. Sometimes they even start to believe they deserve their misfortune and/or easily fall into the role of victim.  More and more energy is taken up by negative thoughts and this only deepens their woes and solidifies self-doubt.  When this mindset takes hold for any prolonged period of time they actually begin to sabotage their own success and happiness.  It is a vicious cycle.  People don’t have black clouds over their heads they just become consumed by dark thoughts.  My own observation of others is that depression doesn’t happen to someone all at once instead it happens gradually over time…

While I don’t subscribe to the theory that we can fully control…

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Ed Robinson's Blog

You have to believe in yourself if you want others to follow you.  I don’t mean a hollow, braggadocios type of belief, but something with more substance.  It’s not enough to have strong opinions and a high degree of self-confidence.  This may make you just a blowhard.  Sadly, our society is never short on these types of individuals and they can be dangerous.  Just because you think you are right doesn’t mean you are.  The facts still matter and you must do the hard work required to achieve any level of real excellence.

What’s ultimately required is that your ground yourself in something more important than yourself.  You have to believe in what it is you are doing before you can fully believe in yourself.   Life is a constant search for meaning and understanding.  The tragedy of many people’s lives is that they are unwilling to put…

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Take Action

In order to make our dreams come true, we must take action rather than simply wishing for what we want.

There is a popular misconception that we might be able to just wish our dreams into being. Maybe on some other level of consciousness this is the case, but here on earth what we need to do is take action in our lives. Vision is an important companion to our efforts, but it can’t accomplish anything all by itself. When we focus on what we want and ask for what we want, we are initiating a conversation with the universe. Our desires, passionately defined and expressed, bring about valuable and relevant opportunities, which we then respond to by either taking or leaving them.

Many of us are afraid to step out into the world and make things happen, and so we hang back, dreaming and waiting and watching. There are times in life when this is the right thing to do, but this phase of inaction must eventually give way to its opposite if we are to build our dreams into a reality. This can be really scary, and we may fail and struggle, but that’s okay because that’s what we’re supposed to do. Waiting for everything to be perfect before we act, or waiting for what we want to be handed to us, leaves us waiting forever. No one expects us to be perfect, so the best thing we can do for ourselves is to get out there and take action on our dreams.

One of the hardest parts about having a vision is that when we test it in the laboratory of life, it often comes out looking completely different than what we had in mind or, worse, it doesn’t come out at all. If you read the life stories of people who have brought their dreams into reality, you will hear many stories about this experience. But you will also hear about hard work, taking action, perseverance, and, finally, the successful birthing of a dream.

A Sign of Imbalance

 Overachieving and Overreaching

Sometimes when we don’t feel good enough, we create imbalance by overachieving or needing to be the best at something.

Overachievers are people who have achieved but still feel the need to do more, creating an imbalance in their lives. People who exhibit this behavior may be trying to compensate for feelings of insecurity and doubts about their worth. They may be chasing unresolved issues from their past into the present, or they might not be looking at their lives as a whole, but judging themselves based only on one aspect of their being. If this is a word that we’ve heard used with respect to our choices and lifestyle, it is worth examining in order to balance our lives for a more rewarding experience.

If we find that we cannot allow ourselves to experience and enjoy the present moment, putting pleasure off into some distant future, it may be a sign that we are being driven to achieve more than is truly necessary. Pushing ourselves beyond the point of exhaustion, or to the exclusion of important people in our lives, robs us of true and meaningful joy. Once we make the connection to the eternal part of us, it can nourish us and allow our priorities to shift from chasing after an elusive feeling to being fully present in the moment so that we can live our lives in the now.

Sometimes we need to look to those we love and admire in order to realize what we value about life. We can take time to note what we like about others, and then turn the mirror to reflect the light of those same words and feelings toward ourselves. It can be quite a revelation to see ourselves in this nourishing light. When we can put the energy that we’ve been devoting to a phantom sense of achievement into the truly satisfying aspects of our lives, we can restore the balance between our inner and outer worlds and experience true joyful peace.

So true….nothing is ever really completed or followed thru to the end. Poor management o the issue is at hand. It’s easier for people to slow down the process or add to the problem rather than fix it! I’m young and already have grey hairs.

Got The Broke-Down Dreary Taxi Dog Blues

The next time I re-locate will be the last.  I hope that will be true.  This move, which I took to be adventure, is becoming an never-ending nightmare.

“Nightmare” is an exaggeration.  Nightmares slowly build to a crescendo, and the terror builds.  This experience is different.  No terror.  No crescendo.  Just microscopically tedious tasks, one after another…a reverse chambered-nautilus in which your existential space narrows to a nano-micrometer.  I want to break free.  But there’s so much still left to do before I can feel at home.  Easy stuff like pictures to be re-hung.   But other stuff that, in the non-handicapped world, wouldn’t seem noticeable.  Things like the re-negotiation of carpet heights  Still, after a decade, I have to see where my feet are.  Every step “feels” like I’m tight-walking on a thousand foot cliff.  I have no sensation in my feet.

Between the ridiculous of the picture-hooks, and the…

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So true….nothing is ever really completed or followed thru to the end. Poor management o the issue is at hand. It’s easier for people to slow down the process or add to the problem rather than fix it! I’m young and already have grey hairs.

Ed Robinson's Blog

I don’t know when the shift started to happen in my lifetime, but we have changed from a nation that gets results to one that seems to accept a lack of performance and then bemoans our lack of progress.  You see evidence of this everywhere you turn:  1) structural economic issues that never get fully addressed; 2) traffic problems that never get solved; 3) infrastructure needs that are constantly put off until there is a crisis; 4) schools that turn out less than stellar results; 5) a widening  gap between the wealthy and everyone else; 6) a health care system that is broken and too costly to maintain; and 7) wars that are started but never end, etc.  Each group of leaders claims they are doing their best given the circumstances and/or blames their opponents for not doing their part.  They then have the gall to rant on about our “exceptionalism.” It…

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So true….nothing is ever really completed or followed thru to the end. Poor management o the issue is at hand. It’s easier for people to slow down the process or add to the problem rather than fix it! I’m young and already have grey hairs.

Ed Robinson's Blog

I don’t know when the shift started to happen in my lifetime, but we have changed from a nation that gets results to one that seems to accept a lack of performance and then bemoans our lack of progress.  You see evidence of this everywhere you turn:  1) structural economic issues that never get fully addressed; 2) traffic problems that never get solved; 3) infrastructure needs that are constantly put off until there is a crisis; 4) schools that turn out less than stellar results; 5) a widening  gap between the wealthy and everyone else; 6) a health care system that is broken and too costly to maintain; and 7) wars that are started but never end, etc.  Each group of leaders claims they are doing their best given the circumstances and/or blames their opponents for not doing their part.  They then have the gall to rant on about our “exceptionalism.” It…

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A moment of choice – starting new

We can choose to start over in this very moment, there is no need to wait for a new year or a new month or a new week.

There are times in our lives that lend themselves to starting something new. The beginning of a new year, finishing school, leaving a job, or changing homes—these all are times that turn our minds to fresh starts. Their advantage is that they bring with them the energy of that event, creating a tide of change around them that we can ride to our next shoreline. But we can choose to start anew anytime. In any moment we can decide that a bad day or a relationship that’s gotten off on the wrong foot can be started again. It is a mental shift that allows us to clean the slate and approach anything with fresh eyes, and we can make that choice at any time.

Starting new is most powerful when we focus our attention to what we are choosing to create. Giving all of our attention to the unwanted aspects of our lives allows what we resist to persist. We need to remember to leave enough room in the process of new beginnings to be kind to ourselves, because it takes time to become accustomed to anything new, no matter how much we like it. There is no need to get down on ourselves if we don’t reach our new goals instantly. Instead, we acknowledge the forward motion and choose to reset and start again, knowing that with each choice we learn, grow, and move forward.

Making the choice to start anew has its own energy—it’s a promise made to you. The forward momentum creates a sort of vacuum behind it, pulling toward you all you need to help you continue moving in your chosen direction. Once the journey has begun, it may take unexpected turns, but it never really ends. Like cycles in nature, there are periods of obvious growth and periods of dormancy that signal a time of waiting for the right moment to burst forth. Each time we choose to start anew we dedicate ourselves to becoming the best we are able to be.